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p.risboy

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I spent last night and most of this morning(4.30am) searching for a great Aunt.
I eventually found her in 1871. married to a Police Constable and living in Eton.
Now here is the rub. I spent nearly 6hrs looking for her between 1861 and 1871. Fine.
Searched her husbands rellies, and got back to 1709 in 10 minutes.(Dr.Who syndrome).

I was not going to bother adding these rellies. But from a post yesterday for a chap looking for LEE relatives, who were gypsies, I thought I should as the in-laws names were LEE. Not that these are his rellies.

So if not for me, then for someone else. Here they are. Come and get them.

I am now inserting new matches to prop up my eyelids.:eek:

Steve.:)
 
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Had to laugh at the matches quip- very witty. I know how you feel when you just have to find that piece of the puzzle.It sometimes drives you to doing mad things like roaming around looking for dandelions:p :2fun:
Seriously though, Which site do you tend to use Steve, I mainly stick with ancestry.
 

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Had to laugh at the matches quip- very witty. I know how you feel when you just have to find that piece of the puzzle.It sometimes drives you to doing mad things like roaming around looking for dandelions:p :2fun:
Seriously though, Which site do you tend to use Steve, I mainly stick with ancestry.
Hi Ellie,
Yes, I stick to that one mostly. And then dig everywhere else when I'm banging the head on the desk.
I'm fortunate that I have the parish records for my home town on disc. But there is always that one, the elusive 'ghost'.
I have a lot of rellies in the neighbouring parish of Monks Risborough whose records are being transcribed as I speak. The same bunch who have done Princes Risborough records, which I have. PURE GOLD!!!!!!!

Steve.:)
 

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I always use FindMyPast, The Genealogist and BMD registers as well as Ancestry. You never know what new records they upload which contain info on an ancestor.

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Very altruistic of you Steve!

I just contacted a chap, who had my Gt Gt Uncle on his tree on Ancestry. Since he had also downloaded all my photos and stories and my mistakes (since corrected on my tree), I thought that I'd email him to ask him how he was connected.

Turns out that he wasn't! He downloads anything he can find in the hope of helping others with their searches! At least he replied, most don't in those circumstances. He said I could check his tree for accuracy if I liked and let him know what corrections he should make. He has 13,000 people in his tree!

I'm still trying to figure out how I feel about that, but since reading your post above I can now understand a little better!

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Very altruistic of you Steve!

I just contacted a chap, who had my Gt Gt Uncle on his tree on Ancestry. Since he had also downloaded all my photos and stories and my mistakes (since corrected on my tree), I thought that I'd email him to ask him how he was connected.

Turns out that he wasn't! He downloads anything he can find in the hope of helping others with their searches! At least he replied, most don't in those circumstances. He said I could check his tree for accuracy if I liked and let him know what corrections he should make. He has 13,000 people in his tree!

I'm still trying to figure out how I feel about that, but since reading your post above I can now understand a little better!

Jill
Hi Jill,
I feel the same, it's like someone peeping through your letterbox.:)
It's harmless enough, as long as you are in total control of your own info on your tree.
And to be honest, it's amazing what you can find out anyway when researching.
Any one of us might just hold that little bit of info that could result in someone knocking down a brick wall.
We have been helped, so why not respond the same.
We just have to be careful what we divulge, and to who.

ps. What does altruistic mean.?

Steve.:)
 

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You're right Steve, it's the 'law of reciprocity' I do believe in that. What you take out, you must also give back.

I have no problem with sharing anything, but I do think it's time for some sort of established etiquette for on-line family history sites. I just feel as though it is a courtesy to contact the person you want to download stuff from. Am I being too precious, what does anyone else think?

I usually just send a brief email saying I'd like to copy something off a tree and usually I find I get a very friendly response and get sent much more stuff as well. I do the same where people ask if they can they have the information. To be honest, most people are very courteous, it's only the odd few who aren't!

Jill
 

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Hi Jill,
I feel the same, it's like someone peeping through your letterbox.:)
It's harmless enough, as long as you are in total control of your own info on your tree.
And to be honest, it's amazing what you can find out anyway when researching.
Any one of us might just hold that little bit of info that could result in someone knocking down a brick wall.
We have been helped, so why not respond the same.
We just have to be careful what we divulge, and to who.

ps. What does altruistic mean.?

Steve.:)
STEVE!!! it means "be nice"
marie:2fun:
 

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You're right Steve, it's the 'law of reciprocity' I do believe in that. What you take out, you must also give back.

I have no problem with sharing anything, but I do think it's time for some sort of established etiquette for on-line family history sites. I just feel as though it is a courtesy to contact the person you want to download stuff from. Am I being too precious, what does anyone else think?

I usually just send a brief email saying I'd like to copy something off a tree and usually I find I get a very friendly response and get sent much more stuff as well. I do the same where people ask if they can they have the information. To be honest, most people are very courteous, it's only the odd few who aren't!

Jill
Precious it is. Especially when we have spent time and money to put it all together, and someone nicks it for free without a thankyou. But as you say Jill, there will always be a few 'pillagers'.
I think it all generally works well.
I started my wifes family tree a few months ago. Within a week of starting it, I recieved a 2 communictions, one from her mums side, and another from her dads side and they gave me the whole shooting match. A total of 35 yrs of research. So I added my name to it, bought 2 certs, and it was done. How on earth could I thank them enough.
And from my own point of view, I had 20 odd years of research and records given to me. He posted it to me from England to Ireland at a cost of 15euros, and would not take a bean.
So now I will pass that spirit on.

Steve.:)
 

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Steve you're right again that is the spirit of it! I've had that kindness shown to me all along the way as well.

Soooo... I'll just 'build a bridge' and get over it!!! :2fun:


BTW altruistic means humane and selfless, to give without thought of any return.
 
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Dear Steve
I had to join in with this posting. When I first started my Welsh ancestry and joined to Gwynedd FHS I had a fantastic letter from someone researching
N.Caernarfonshire families, and he enclosed the whole of my familytree on my father's maternal line back to the 1600's, and this was then followed by another senior genealogist confirming the other. This was such a help to me starting off. I only wish the other lines were at the same point !! So I do try to help others when I can. I am not sure that I would print out all my hard work somewhere that it could be just copied without some form of communication from that person.
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Hi

Quite often I have emailed family history personal websites if they have details on an ancestor of mine that is in their database and sometimes the replies I get can be quite dismissive or abrupt like "I dont have any real info on them" as if to say "Dont bother us". I sent one site an email back explaining my connection and they never replied, so I though why bother?

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