Rudeness and assertiveness.

[benny1982]

I hate it when people who are down right rude and nasty saying they are only being honest.

Someone on another internet site reckons that people are more genuine on the internet and you are more likely to get the truth out of them and he also says that mods shouldn't have to sort out arguments between members and as long as nude pics aren't posted it is okay so what he is saying is that trolls and spammers are just being genuine. I strongly disagree with what he says.

People should go on the internet without being harassed and insulted by other members and lets face it most sites hold a zero tolerance policy where it comes to that. Anyone who trolls or is abusive or baiting to another member will be dealt with severely.

And the internet is a place for trolls to post things that they wouldn't say or do in person as they would be too scared.

 

[p.risboy]

I agree Ben. They're just a bunch of faceless. rude cowards. I don't and can't be bothered with them, nor the sites. I don't use 'chat' rooms like 'face ache' and 'my face'.

This one is a prime example of a good one.

We can have a bit of fun, as well as help each other.

Well done to the mods on here I say.

Steve.

 

[leefer]

I hate it when people who are down right rude and nasty saying they are only being honest.

Someone on another internet site reckons that people are more genuine on the internet and you are more likely to get the truth out of them and he also says that mods shouldn't have to sort out arguments between members and as long as nude pics aren't posted it is okay so what he is saying is that trolls and spammers are just being genuine. I strongly disagree with what he says.

People should go on the internet without being harassed and insulted by other members and lets face it most sites hold a zero tolerance policy where it comes to that. Anyone who trolls or is abusive or baiting to another member will be dealt with severely.

And the internet is a place for trolls to post things that they wouldn't say or do in person as they would be too scared.

True Benny....probably spend to much time on this site...but i enjoy it...i hate any form of bullying with a vengeance....the only thing i will say is Ben is that you have a choice..we all have....if you ever go on a site and feel threatened then you have a choice to not bother going on it....in fact i know a friend who got rid of his laptop because his life was becoming messy...its down to decide for yourself if you aint happy...
Its a valid point you make however especially ware young people are concerned and i think there is a case for stronger mods on sites ware younger people are easily swayed....all the best Lee

 

[Ellie]

I think you're absolutely right Ben. Unfortunately there's always one or two people that have to spoil forums. I used to use a pet forum (as you've probably gathered by now I'm an animal lover ) but I stopped using it because the people on there were so rude.
I can't for the life of me think why anyone would think a forum without moderators is a good idea!, that would leave users vulnerable to 'cyber bullying' and that is totally unacceptable.

 

[benny1982]

I was recently harassed by a member of a skyscraper forum. He is rude to others as well but he changed the words of my username to derogatory rhyming things and called me by them.

He is better now as I reported him but I dont trust him at all. he is from London and I was giving my opinion on the place as I have been there a lot and he said "Leave London for Londoners and stop acting like a dweeb and come on here spouting your inane opinions when people have lived here all their lives and know better and not expect them to tell you where to get off".

If they did, I would just give my opinion even more. Its is a public forum and a free country so I will give my opinions on London.

 

[Ellie]

Good for you, and I have to confess I'd be the same > :2fun:

 

[duckweed]

My teenage son has been on a live game site in which they have clans that group together to beat other clans. He won't take abusive language or behaviour and if they won't take a warning, he has the site owners remove them. Consequently he has the longest lasting and one of the most popular clans. Why should anyone want to go on a site to be abused?

 

[p.risboy]

My teenage son has been on a live game site in which they have clans that group together to beat other clans. He won't take abusive language or behaviour and if they won't take a warning, he has the site owners remove them. Consequently he has the longest lasting and one of the most popular clans. Why should anyone want to go on a site to be abused?

Good on him Ducky, and wish him well from me.

Steve.

 

[marie44]

Good for you, and I have to confess I'd be the same > :2fun:

me too, to everything everybody said and i am one of the most opinionated people in the world but only where its necessary. when people are nice then i'm nice but if they arent the suffer the wrath of Marie.:2fun: :2fun:

 

[benny1982]

I hate self appointed forum moderators who try and moderate the forums and boss you around when they have no authority and tell you what to post. I have encountered a few of these and I have politely pointed out that they dont run this forum.

 

[Ellie]

Yes I have encountered a few 'power hungry' moderators in the past, its quite sad really that trying to 'control' a forum is all they have going for them. ... always nice on here though.

 

[benny1982]

There is a genealogy forum, some of you may know what one I mean which was made in 2006 from Genes and has its own Wiki. There tends to be an air of superiority amongst members on the forum and I even told one of the mods where to get off as she posted a nasty reply to one of my posts so I just said "I known more about my family tree than you do so if you haven't got anything nice to say, dont say it at all" and she soon backed off. I made her feel 2 feet tall. Assertiveness often works.

 

[Ellie]

me too, to everything everybody said and i am one of the most opinionated people in the world but only where its necessary. when people are nice then i'm nice but if they arent the suffer the wrath of Marie.:2fun: :2fun:

Totally agree, but sometimes the attitudes from other members can be childish and along the lines of "i'm not speaking to you"- and from adults its downright pathetic really.. :2fun:

 

[p.risboy]

That's what makes this forum so good. Couldn't agree more with the comments made by all.

 

[Ellie]

It could be better

 

[sparklingtechie]

I hate it when people who are down right rude and nasty saying they are only being honest.

Someone on another internet site reckons that people are more genuine on the internet and you are more likely to get the truth out of them and he also says that mods shouldn't have to sort out arguments between members and as long as nude pics aren't posted it is okay so what he is saying is that trolls and spammers are just being genuine. I strongly disagree with what he says.

People should go on the internet without being harassed and insulted by other members and lets face it most sites hold a zero tolerance policy where it comes to that. Anyone who trolls or is abusive or baiting to another member will be dealt with severely.

And the internet is a place for trolls to post things that they wouldn't say or do in person as they would be too scared.

I completely agree, there is no excuse for bad manners either on the net or off.

 

[Guy]

One person's assertiveness is another's rudeness.

The internet forms a centre for customs and cultures to meet.
The customs of one culture may offend those from another culture.
In the same way people of one age group may be offended by people of another age group as politeness changes with age.

I for instance was taught that any word could be used as a swear-word depending on the way or manner it was used.
I find the expression d*m as offensive if not more offensive as the word dam because not only does the user use the word or expression but insults my intelligence by suggesting I do not understand the expression.
In the same way I am offended by people who do not show the common courtesy of using their correct names on the forum.
That says to me they do not trust me with their name.

You see it is very easy to remark about rudeness.
I suggest we all set our own standards of what is acceptable in decent society and acknowledge that others may not attain, or may exceed our own standards.
Cheers
Guy

 

[Ellie]

You have a point, but we have to have a limit regarding what is and what is not acceptable.

 

[leefer]

Its a very touchy subject really.....there has to be mods on all forums and good luck and wishes to all of them.

Fact is for me that i would find it very,very hard to be a mod as i have always thought my way of thinking very diverse....my good is another mans/womans bad and visa versa.

So for me the real important point is that people choose a forum that suits them.
If you dont like the way a forum is run etc go elseware to another place that will suit you.
This is a fine forum that needs to be regulated.....that can be hard at times but you pays your money..............AND YOU TAKES YOUR CHOICE:biggrin:

 

[gibbo]

It could be better

On the positive side of it Ellie, on the overall whole there has not been many complaints so i think that says alot about this forum been one of the best.