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Rudeness and assertiveness.
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Having experienced all other Family History forums online FHUK would have to be No. 1.
I find the best option to take if you come across anyone being rude is: DON’T REPLY TO THEM, DON’T HELP THEM AGAIN.
There are a few posts I find irritating, boring, repetitive, mundane and you’ve got to be joking me, but now I SIMPLY DON’T READ THEM.
The rude, annoying, offensive people will eventually leave, hopefully to the RC paranoid forum we’re they belong.
Keep up the good work mods, I love a good laugh first thing in the morning reading the funny/chat forum.
cheers
crankypants (my real name)
I find the best option to take if you come across anyone being rude is: DON’T REPLY TO THEM, DON’T HELP THEM AGAIN.
There are a few posts I find irritating, boring, repetitive, mundane and you’ve got to be joking me, but now I SIMPLY DON’T READ THEM.
The rude, annoying, offensive people will eventually leave, hopefully to the RC paranoid forum we’re they belong.
Keep up the good work mods, I love a good laugh first thing in the morning reading the funny/chat forum.
cheers
crankypants (my real name)
I find that what we say in Australia [we are very broad minded] is not acceptable in SOME other parts of the world but which words?.
So does that mean we have to learn all of the worlds cultures or do we become NARROW MINDED and easily offended like some.
This does not necessarily mean we are being rude but what our culture has conditioned us too, that culture came from English convicts and has been passed on from one generation to the next.
Other Cultures conditioned their peoples minds too, that does not make them right nor make our culture right, it's matter of making allowances and understanding for other Nationality's.
I imagine Westerners offend the polite Japanese often and unintentially.
If anyone with a narrow mind should visit Australia, then don't visit the outback in places like Alice Springs, Kalgoorlie, Charters Towers or Burke,
I even find them embarrising, every 2nd word is swear word and sometimes from the ladies.
So it's all about culture and acceptance.
A word in Australia "bludger" does not have the same meaning as it does in England, it means lazy here, so i came a 'gutser' on this forum by calling someone a 'bludger' unwittingly.
There are mods everywhere that that try to force THEIR OPINIONS on others without taking this into account, and their conditioning may not have been the best, so what makes them a good judge?.
Oz Steve.
So does that mean we have to learn all of the worlds cultures or do we become NARROW MINDED and easily offended like some.
This does not necessarily mean we are being rude but what our culture has conditioned us too, that culture came from English convicts and has been passed on from one generation to the next.
Other Cultures conditioned their peoples minds too, that does not make them right nor make our culture right, it's matter of making allowances and understanding for other Nationality's.
I imagine Westerners offend the polite Japanese often and unintentially.
If anyone with a narrow mind should visit Australia, then don't visit the outback in places like Alice Springs, Kalgoorlie, Charters Towers or Burke,
I even find them embarrising, every 2nd word is swear word and sometimes from the ladies.
So it's all about culture and acceptance.
A word in Australia "bludger" does not have the same meaning as it does in England, it means lazy here, so i came a 'gutser' on this forum by calling someone a 'bludger' unwittingly.
There are mods everywhere that that try to force THEIR OPINIONS on others without taking this into account, and their conditioning may not have been the best, so what makes them a good judge?.
Oz Steve.
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Hi,just reading everyones posts,and would like to give an opinion. This is my 1st time on a site where I have chatted with others(too much nonsense online nowadays).This site reminds me of a big,Happy family .It is very welcoming, friendly and helpful.As to rudeness,etc. ,what difference does a minute or two make to check to see if something is acceptable on this site?I can't see anyone having a problem with info given-someone tried to help,if they couldn't,so what-you're no further behind.I have to go, so -THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO HELPED/TRIED TO HELP ME, Joslyn.
Amazing what a kind word can do. And it's 'paying it forward'. Sooner or later, the good karma will visit.
This site is a calm oasis when you compare it with the über-kommados running a couple of sites I have used. Some remind me of visiting a library for research and being attacked by the librarian for not sitting correctly upright in my chair while reading. It worked when I was eight. Never since.
And some, "there's no reason for it, it's just our policy". LOL
Cheers, all. Good job, all the people in red ink. (Maybe there's a more soothing colour, though ??)
This site is a calm oasis when you compare it with the über-kommados running a couple of sites I have used. Some remind me of visiting a library for research and being attacked by the librarian for not sitting correctly upright in my chair while reading. It worked when I was eight. Never since.
And some, "there's no reason for it, it's just our policy". LOL
Cheers, all. Good job, all the people in red ink. (Maybe there's a more soothing colour, though ??)
Hi
I spend a lot of my spare time searching the records for posters missing relatives. I do it because I want to, as a hobby, and get satisfaction from it, especially when I am successful. If someone does not thank me, it does not stop me looking for more. Maybe a little hurt that the poster does not seem to appreciate the time involved, but then I think of my Sister in Law. She is a lovely person, but her abilities have been somewhat reduced by the effects of a stroke. She has made great strides in her ability, helped in a big way by her searching for her family tree, and that of her friends. She would not thank me, and I understand why. Her hand does not always do what her brain is telling her, and she is sometimes very difficult to understand. Proof reading her work is a challenge, but after 2 or 3 reprints we usually get there.
I know there are people out there who think that everything is theirs as a right, but there are many, like my Sister in Law, who do appreciate help, but for one reason or another, are not quite able to express this.
dave
I spend a lot of my spare time searching the records for posters missing relatives. I do it because I want to, as a hobby, and get satisfaction from it, especially when I am successful. If someone does not thank me, it does not stop me looking for more. Maybe a little hurt that the poster does not seem to appreciate the time involved, but then I think of my Sister in Law. She is a lovely person, but her abilities have been somewhat reduced by the effects of a stroke. She has made great strides in her ability, helped in a big way by her searching for her family tree, and that of her friends. She would not thank me, and I understand why. Her hand does not always do what her brain is telling her, and she is sometimes very difficult to understand. Proof reading her work is a challenge, but after 2 or 3 reprints we usually get there.
I know there are people out there who think that everything is theirs as a right, but there are many, like my Sister in Law, who do appreciate help, but for one reason or another, are not quite able to express this.
dave
So true Dave and and a good reminder that other's are sometime less able, but appreciative in their own way. I have an elderly second cousin who loves help with family history, but some days technology gets the better of her, a computer virus, a sticking keyboard, the internet just being down, etc. she would never mean to be rude by nor replying, but is at the mercy of people stopping by who know how to get her going on her computer again!
Sometimes we just have to be happy with cyber thanks!
Cheers,
Jill
Sometimes we just have to be happy with cyber thanks!
Cheers,
Jill
I think most people can relate to that. It's sad that some people have to amuse themselves by making fun of someone else.
Equally, I've encountered people who resort to childish personal comments in order to make themselves appear "big". It only demonstrates that they are quite pathetic.Such a shame.
Equally, I've encountered people who resort to childish personal comments in order to make themselves appear "big"
. It only demonstrates that they are quite pathetic.Such a shame.I agree there is no need for rudeness or abuse. However there is room for healthy debate and if a subject is contentious then some people may be offended by the strong views of others. In areas of politics and religion this is often the case but there is nothing wrong in this providing it is done in a civil manner. Once a debate descends into insult then the argument is lost.
So welcome to healthy debate and shut the door on mindless abuse O0
So welcome to healthy debate and shut the door on mindless abuse O0
Yay to all of you!! You are all sooooo right. I have an issue at work where a small group of people like to make fun of client surnames - even less appropriate given the maiden name of one of the perpetrators. And it has spread to making fun of other staff members. It is seen as a bit of harmless fun, but it is intrinsically disrespectful and will end in tears, I suspect. It is only a short step from there to making fun of other characteristics.
Surely our diversity needs to be celebrated - this is what makes us interesting.
Kind regards to you all.
Amanda
Surely our diversity needs to be celebrated - this is what makes us interesting.
Kind regards to you all.
Amanda
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